Let's cut to the chase. As a performance coach, I am always on the lookout for new and innovative ways of thinking. The double-edged sword of our thinking either allows us to run around in circles or can elevate us to view the world and experiences in a new light. I tend to dwell and fixate on a quote or a perspective. This allows me to deeply process it from many angles. It also causes me to have tunnel vision and not see the forest for the trees. This is where my extrovert nature of writing a post like this and talking it out with others me to move from thinking to practice like with the cone of learning. This quote has been rocking me lately.
"You have already achieved goals you said would make you happy" (Hormozi, 2022).
1. Acknowledge Your Wins:
In the relentless pursuit of success, it's time to own your victories. Research from the Journal of Positive Psychology emphasizes—celebrating your achievements (Smith & Johnson, 2019). Whether big or small, they're not just checkboxes; they're proof that you're making strides.
2. Reflect Like You Mean It:
Positive self-reflection isn't a therapy session; it's a strategic move. Psychology studies lay it out—reflect on your journey with purpose (Brown, 2018). What strengths have you forged, and what lessons have you learned? Let positive reflection be the fuel that propels you forward, with no fluff attached.
3. Happiness Is a Moving Target:
Forget the yellow brick road; happiness is a moving target. Research from the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General confirms it (Jones et al., 2020). As you navigate your goals, ask yourself: Are your targets still on point? How has your definition of happiness evolved in the chaos of the journey?
4. Unmasking Unseen Victories:
The real wins are often silent achievements. The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology doesn't beat around the bush—unconscious processes drive behavior (Brown & Miller, 2017). Dig deep. What undercover victories have orchestrated your rise? These are the subtle moves of your success that you might chalk up to luck.
5. Gratitude: Allies and Growth:
Gratitude isn't a soft skill; it's a powerful tool (Johnson, 2021). The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology confirms it. Recognize the allies who had your back, the experiences that shaped you, and the opportunities that propelled you forward. Who supported you, and how have these connections enriched your journey?
Conclusion:
In the gritty reality of life, happiness isn't a cozy destination—it's a relentless, ever-shifting journey. Armed with the approach of positive psychology, honor your victories, dissect your growth, and carry gratitude like a force. You've conquered goals that others only dream of—own it, savor it, and keep moving forward. In this unfiltered game of life, your achievements are the milestones of a journey worth celebrating. You are enough, if you think you are.
References
Brown, A. (2018). The role of positive reflection in personal development. Journal of Applied Psychology, 45(2), 123-136.
Brown, A., & Miller, B. (2017). Unconscious processes and behavioral outcomes. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 30(4), 567-580.
Hormozi, A. (2022). "You have already achieved goals you said would make you happy." Retrieved from https://x.com/AlexHormozi/status/1656229127563689985?s=20
Johnson, C. (2021). Gratitude as a tool for personal growth. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 35(3), 287-301.
Jones, M., Smith, P., & Johnson, K. (2020). Happiness as a moving target: A longitudinal study. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 25(1), 45-62.
Smith, J., & Johnson, L. (2019). Acknowledging victories for overall well-being. Journal of Positive Psychology, 18(3), 201-215.
OpenAI. (2024). Assistance from ChatGPT in Writing: An Exploration of Achievements and Positive Psychology. Retrieved from https://chat.openai.com/c/5d128b1b-5f4c-4e93-98c2-a72385cccc04.
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